One of my teachers once told me “the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask”. I’ve since come to realise that it is a common statement in the personal development realm. At first, I totally wrote it off as some kind of nonsense. But over the years I have found it reverberating in truth more and more.
We ask questions all the time; to others and of ourselves. Yet how often have you stopped to think if a particular question can be asked a better way? A way that may encourage a better result. A way in which you or the person being asked will be empowered by the answer.
Until such time we learn better, many of the questions we ask are of low vibration that keeps us right where we are or emphasises a problem rather than solving it.
An empowering question, however, is designed to be much more thought-provoking and make us seek deeper inside for the answer. They are questions that challenge us and raise our conscious awareness.
The Downfall of Charlie
To give you an example, Charlie is down in the dumps, he’s unemployed, has very little money, sits around all day watching television, eats junk food and is depressed at his lot in life. He is constantly seeing people with nice things that he wishes he could have but can’t afford. His response is usually a barrage of questions aimed at himself “why can’t I have that? Why is my life so crap? Why am I such a loser?”
All of these questions are focusing on the negative. They do nothing to help Charlie move forward. At best they will keep him stuck where he is and at worse, they may actually cause him to sink even deeper into depression.
The Empowering Light
A much better set of questions Charlie could ask himself is “What can I do to get that? How can I make my life better? How can I improve myself today?”
Notice how these questions have a forward momentum? They push Charlie to come up with actual solutions to his problems rather than seeking reasons “why” he has them.
Empowering Questions are an incredibly powerful tool for us to use in our quest to be better versions of ourselves. They are also invaluable in empowering others too and can help to enrich the relationships we have.
There are so many examples of empowering questions and in this blog, I’ll address as many as I can think of and ask them to you over time. A good rule (and I use the word “rule” very lightly) is to change “Why” questions into “How” or “What” questions.
By changing the way we question ourselves and others, can dramatically change our lives.
How can you improve your life by asking Empowering Questions?